Page Description by LuxmiH: These are the eight steps I took that helped me to recover from worry during the Real Estate market crash. It reveals how basically simple it is to replace worry, which is simply a negative habit, with winning, which is also a habit, but a positive, life-enhancing repetition.
Are you or have you ever been plagued by worry? Does it come like a thief in the night to rob you of your sleep? Did you know that it is NOT normal to be a worry-wart and that worry doesn’t fix anything? In fact, it just makes matters worse? There was a time when I didn’t know that.
I remember how worried I was during the height of the housing market crash. I lived in constant fear. I was worried that we’d lose everything and it would all be my fault. I must have aged twenty years due to my nail-nail biting worry. I thought that if I worried enough, I’d come up with a solution. Well, no matter how much I worried and searched for answers; I continued to sink deeper into my anxiety quagmire.
But then I learned about the Cosmic Law of Attraction. You see, as long as I was focused on my problems, I was wallowing in a destructive state of mind and therefore increasing my problems. It’s difficult to come up with constructive answers when looking down into a deep, dark destructive hole. I fumbled around in the dark wondering why I wasn’t making any headway.
As long as I remained in the depths of anxiety and fear, I was blindly searching for gold without even so much as a flashlight. In order to dissolve my problems I needed to change my point of view and my mindset. Or to put it in terms of vibrations, I had to somehow shift my energy from low, slow densities to higher, lighter frequencies. It’s sort of like changing the TV channel from a horror movie to an inspirational film.
Worry is much like smoking, in that it is simply a destructive habit. We can release any life-destroying habits by replacing them with life-enhancing habits. It’s a matter of exchanging one destructive pattern for another constructive pattern. Just like any new routine, it might require constant attention and practice in the beginning, but after sufficient spaced repetition, it becomes part of our repetitive behavior.
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. That’s how I overcame my habitual worry. Here are the eight steps that turned my life around.
Step one: I admitted to myself that I’d been a worry wart and that it was not working for me.
Step two: Just for this moment, right now, I hand over/release my worries and negative situation to a Higher Power. (Sometimes in my mind, I imagined stuffing everything inside the basket attached to a hot air balloon and watched it fade far away into the distance.)
Step three: I used my imagination to make a mind movie. I saw, felt and experienced myself looking back at my life from a happy, peaceful, confident space. I felt the blessed relief. I imagined myself prosperous, abundant and free.
Step four: I constantly retrained and reframed my mind. This means whenever I caught myself using negative self-talk, self-pity, or self-condemnation, I said “Cancel, Cancel, Cancel” and then restated it. out loud. in the positive. For example instead of saying, “I’m so worried, I just don’t know what to do?” I’d rephrase it into a positive statement. Saying, “Cancel, cancel, cancel! I am confident that the perfect solution will present itself. For right now, I am peaceful and I have faith that it’s all going to work out for the highest good of all.”
Step five: I regularly practice relaxation techniques that appealed to me. I used journaling, meditation, Tai Chi, yoga, swimming, walking and Qi Gong. But others have used hobbies such as quilting, horse riding, singing, listening to music, volunteering; anything that they enjoyed that relaxed them and gave their mind a break.
Step six: I wrote down the following and read it every morning and night; it is from Mark Victor Hansen and Robert G. Allen’s, ‘Fourth Aha’ in The One minute Millionaire. “I am abundant in every good way. Infinite money is mine to earn, save, invest, exponentially multiply and give away. My abundance is making everyone better off. I embrace abundance and abundance embraces me.”
Step seven: Instead of kicking down doors and trying to force things to happen, I learned to relax and go with the flow. I listened to my inner promptings. I continued to live life in magical, present moments. On minute at a time, one day at a time.
Step eight: Every evening before going to bed, I wrote in a gratitude journal, a minimum of at least three things that I was grateful for. I found something new every evening. It could be something as basic as; I am grateful for eyes that can see and appreciate beauty. Or, I am grateful that just for today; I still have a roof over my head and a meal in my stomach. I practiced seeing the good in every situation. I lived in appreciation concentrated on being fully present, one precious moment at a time. Bit by bit, day by day I grew stronger and developed life-restoring habits, such as seeing GOoD in everything and everyone.
By being grateful I increased what we have to be grateful for. These steps worked for me and have become my habitual life pattern. Please feel free to pay it forward and share these techniques with someone you care about.
Here’s what my spiritual guru Pujya Sri Swamiji says: “When you give UP your worries, then the responsibility becomes that of Swamiji. – Holiness Sri Ganapathy Sachchidananda Swamiji, Glimpses of Bhaktimala-IV, My Methods are Different from Those of Others (Sep ’92).